2014 Beauty Revolution

Beauty Revolution

On New Year’s Eve I read this article, by a friend of mine, Adrienne Sandvos, Darling Magazine: Beauty Revolution 2014.

I was challenged about my own beauty, my perception, my self-worth….how I see myself.

I generally don’t identify my beauty as anything other than ‘average’, I am one of millions of blonde haired, blue eyed European women.  I don’t feel that anything about myself stands out or makes my ‘beauty’ unique.

I am not happy.

I want this article to be honest and real, not a cry for attention or affirmation, but an honest reflection as a woman.

You may look at this picture and ask “what do you possibly have to worry about?” and looking at this picture you would be right.  I LOVE this picture of me.  I love everything about it, and not just because it was taken just a few short hours before I walked down the aisle to become Mrs Cataldo.

On my wedding day I was incredibly comfortable with how I looked.  I felt beautiful.  Even before I had people do my make-up and hair.  However, for prolonged seasons of my life I have battled with my self-image, my weight and generally not believing I am beautiful.

Beauty Revolution

For years I thought, if I just had a boyfriend or husband who thought I was beautiful then maybe things would be different.  Now I have a husband who loves me dearly, and thinks I am beautiful just as I am – but this season of my life has been one of the biggest struggles for me regarding my beauty.

I want to change.  I want to see myself differently.  I want to like who I am, as I am.

Beauty Revolution

You see, it’s not about what other people think of me.  It’s about how I feel about me.  

I want to learn to love myself, and like myself AS I AM.

Whether I am 20lbs heavier or lighter, whether I have wrinkles or bags, whether parts of my body are sagging ‘before their time’!

That’s why I chose to use this picture.  This is my goal. I want to feel the same way about myself EVERYDAY, as I did in the picture.  I may not look the same, weigh the same and I certainly will grow older, but the only thing stopping me feeling the same way about my beauty is me.

As I was thinking about this I was reminded that outer beauty is not as important as inner beauty and my looks certainly shouldn’t be my focus. However, I have come to the realization that if I am so unhappy with my exterior beauty then my inner self, my spirit, is affected too.  At times I am filled with dislike and even hatred for myself and that – over time – takes it’s toll and even harms my inner beauty. I am allowing my spirit to be damaged and I am not doing anything about it.

Your adornment must not be merely external—braiding the hair, and wearing gold jewelry, or putting on dresses; but let it be the hidden person of the heart, with the imperishable quality of a gentle and quiet spirit, which is precious in the sight of God. 1 Peter 3:3-4

Beauty Revolution

So today I am choosing to make a stand!

I am choosing to change my attitude.

I am choosing to learn to love myself for who I am, as I am – NOT the me I wish I was.

Ladies, I urge you, if you have the same or similar struggles as me, choose to take a stand with me.

Vow to love and like yourselves AS YOU ARE.

Start now.  Start today.

2014 Beauty Revolution.

 

Photo credit: Shauna Castaner Photography

Make-up & Hair: Leilani & Renee at Hello Glam

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6 thoughts on “2014 Beauty Revolution

  1. Daphne Hazel Rank says:

    Lovely commentary, Ruth! Obviously not just an American hang-up? 🙂 We can take it a step further with aging. Learning to love the wrinkles, lumps and droops when youth is only a memory can be a challenge! Remembering that who we really “are” is not how we look, but how we love and Who we serve! (Proverbs 31:30 Charm is deceitful, and beauty is vain, but a woman who fears the Lord is to be praised.) Happy 2014! And here’s to another year “older”!

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  2. Kristine Cataldo says:

    Love, love, love this article, my Sister in Christ! 🙂 I have, over the past 2 years, struggled with a transformation, as you well know… body, mind, spirit. I have physically changed, but now know that the physical appearance is nothing more than just that. The beautiful people are beautiful from the inside and it radiates in their spirit, soul, purpose and how they interact with others. You have, and always will be beautiful in that regard. Also, I think you are absolutely stunning on the outside too… the full package of beauty, if you will! xo for keeping it real! – Kristine

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  3. rebecca hope says:

    This is a great post! Everyone should love themselves regardless what they think they look like. Beauty is so much more than looks. It’s also a feeling. Just as they say, you must first love yourself in order for anyone else to love you”. I think this article proves that

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  4. Michele Reynolds says:

    I’m with you on this! I like the quote, Happy girls are the prettiest, by Audrey Hepburn. It’s so true. Sexy is an attitude. And beauty comes from the soul. Pinned to my beauty board. Great inspiration for 2014!

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  5. Rachel B says:

    Great post! I sometimes struggle too, looking in the mirror and just looking at myself as “blah” especially when I had a run down or bad day! So every morning after we brush our teeth I pick up my son and we look in the mirror and I say “Look at us! We look good!” (haha) and we smile in the mirror at ourselves. It’s silly but it does help! Anyways, thanks for linking up with the weekend blog block party! See you again this weekend!

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